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29 janvier 2010|

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A candid interview about a prostitute’s view on her path and of the overwhelming phenomenon of sex-trafficking in Canada.

GN: So you entered the sex trade at a very young age – you were 14 years old - what made you go down that path?

Mistress Envy: Um this girl I know she was dating this guy that was kind of like the ‘ring leader’ like he had these guys come into his apartment and there’d be some girls sitting around partying, doing coke and stuff, and there was this girl. So she showed me around to see how things operated – these girls they all had money and whatever they wanted – like shopping, weed, whatever. And I’m looking at it going hmmm, I can do the same thing too – I don’t need to depend on my family and get little handles here and there, that’s not cutting it , like my bed alone was 1200 – when I was a kid I couldn’t ask for 1200, my family would be like ‘what the fuck’? It’s easy money you know, like I don’t have to work 9-5, whatever.

GN: What do you mean by “I can do the same thing too.”

Mistress Envy: Give sex for money.

GN: Were you upset with your family for any reason – was that what lead you to do this?

Mistress Envy: I was upset for them not giving me what I needed basically. Like, I lived with my aunt and she had three other boys so she had to split her money between all of us so…I didn’t have EVERYTHING that I wanted, I had what I needed.

GN: So where were your real parents?

Mistress Envy: My mom married some guy and they moved to Detroit and my dad, I only met twice. He lives somewhere in Ontario.

GN: So your mom and her new husband didn’t want to have anything to do with you?

Mistress Envy: Yes, that’s right.

GN: So what was it like dealing with your first client?

Mistress Envy: It was kind of like a rush, like something new, like I’m the star of the moment, and this guy chose me – there’s all these other pretty girls there and he chose me. It felt like “I win”.

GN: Did you need to do drugs to give you the audacity to have sex with a complete stranger?

Mistress Envy: No I never got into drugs. Just a little here and there. But you shouldn’t get into dope in this business cuz all your money goes to getting more. My addiction is shoes.

GN: And I can tell by your authentic chanel bag! So this guy picked you in a room? Was it some sort of party?

Mistress Envy: It was a prostitution ring – it was all underground. All of us girls were like 13 or 14.

GN: Are there a lot of such underground prostitution rings around?

Mistres Envy: I know of this one place but yes, I’ve heard of a lot others around. People were saying like ‘oh be careful’ and in the back of my head I’m like be careful of what? If anything happens here, everyone’s gonna take care of me. If a fight breaks out, everyone is gonna take care of me. If there’d be any trouble there’s 10 girls that I know that will take care of me completely.

GN: So they became your new family – seeing as your real parents abandoned you.

Mistress Envy: Yes –they become like your own team.

GN: Generally, what kind of men make up your clientel?

Mistress Envy: Back then it was old dirty Arabs and all their friends. But when I got older I did a massage parlor. So then it was drunk people downtown like kids and stuff and then I went independent – it was more businessmen. I advertised in the states so it was American men – the exchange rate was better.

GN: Is that what you are doing here in Montreal?

Mistress Envy: I advertised here but I haven’t had any calls yet – I danced though. But I want to get back to the businessmen cuz if your dancing 11 hours a day at Wanda’s, I make a hundred dollars each day.

GN: Have you ever been mistreated?

Mistress Envy: One time I was robbed. I saw this guy through an agency I was with. They sent me 10 guys and I would have made 2500. So I’m like no problem, one at a time. And so they knock at the door, I open the door and they point a gun at me. They tell me to give them my money. And I still had to pay the escort agency I was with the fees that they had to pay cuz they didn’t believe me. So I got fired for being robbed. They don’t give a shit about you in this industry.

GN: So there is no protection for you against this kind of abuse?

GN: No. If you have a pimp, they’re supposed to take care of you but no one cares about you more than you. Like, they are not gonna go in the room if some guy is beating you. They’re just sitting in the car.

Mistress Envy: No one wants problems, the pimp is not gonna get out of the car and beat the guy. So it’s up to us to have our own protection. That’s why I don’t think that pepper spray is illegal cuz we should be able to use that for our own protection. What am I supposed to do? Your not supposed to have a knife, you’re not supposed to have pepper spray, what am I supposed to do? Most men can over-power me.

GN: I hear a lot of stories about the drugs, the wealthy businessmen and the escorts…tell me a bit about that.

Mistress Envy: A lot of rich businessmen do coke but I never touch that stuff – I mean I’ll do a line if I’m in a club or something but I have t control myself because I love it. If I let myself, I would be on it all the time.

But a lot of these businessmen are married – but they have the money and the power. Especially the doctors and pharmacists – they’re the worst cuz they have access to drugs.

GN: So there are these old school feminists that say that sex trade workers are degraded and exploited.They say that women do it out of desperation and not of their own free will. Others say it’s empowering – what are your thoughts on this?

Mistress Envy: Well firstly, I can’t say that we are all mistreated – everyone has their own story. Personally I don’t do drugs so it’s not about scrounging the money for the next hit. The girls who do drugs, they are the ones who get mistreated – they will accept little money and do whatever for the drugs. No one is making me do this so it’s my own free will.

GN: Do you feel a certain amount of power attached to it, do you feel power over some men?

Mistress Envy: Yes, cuz they want me and I have what they want. Some are really dumb, they’ll do anything I say especially if they are hooked on drugs- I honestly like the coke-heads best, they are better clients, they just keep throwing money around.

GN: What are the things that you love about the business?

Mistress Envy: Freedom, I can do what I want when I want. It’s not like a desk job where you have to do things over and over again – it would drive me crazy to do that.

GN: Do you think that you could do this for a long time?

Mistress Envy: No, not forever. I don’t think mentally I could do it cuz it takes a lot out of you. And the stress – some days you could make a lot of money and the next your broke. Cuz you couldn’t care about your bills or you had a shopping spree. It’s stressful but always a thrill. Especially when the guy comes and he has a Maserati and 5 grand in his pocket and he’s all coked up and doesn’t care about anything – that’s fun, you know? But it’s not always like that.

I give myself two years and then I’ll go back to school. At least I’ll have money in the bank and be stable and not have to worry about loans. I would have to finish high school since I dropped out.

From the age of 16 – 20, I dated a drug dealer so I didn’t have to do a thing. Lived in a beautiful house and everything was perfect so I didn’t think I needed school anymore cuz I had the world. Reality hit when I left him because of drugs – heroin and coke. SO I was like hmmm, what to do now? Escort!

GN: Does your family know that you do this?

Mistress Envy: My Grandma knows. I’m close to her since my mom and dad were never in my life…I had a mental breakdown and I felt like I had to tell her…I would ask her to hold like 10 grand and she would ask where the money came from. Her reaction was “at least she’s not hooked on drugs – at least she’s doing something.” My mom thinks I own an escort agency.

GN: So your mom accepted it?

Mistress Envy: She just gave me this sour look.

GN: What does your mom do?

Mistress Envy: Her and her husband own a heating company in the states. It’s bullshit work.

GN: They probably make some money though – Does she help you out?

Mistress Envy: My mom’s cheap. She doesn’t help me or my sister.

GN: Ok so I’m wondering, how do you see the average girl next door whose looking for love and marriage and eternal commitment and happiness? Do you that they have a naïve view of men?

Mistress Envy: Yeah, cuz this job, it basically made me hate men. Cuz a guy could be in the car with his wife and a car full of kids and he’ll still look at me like he wants to have sex with me, with his tongue hanging out of his mouth. And these girls want to be with that? These family men cheat and treat them like shit and have lots of mistresses – like – what is that?

GN: What kind of man are we talking about here – lower middle class? Middle class? Wealthy?

Mistress Envy: All men. All. From 17 to 100, they are all dirty men. I don’t care what they preach.

GN: So you think most men cheat?

Mistress Envy: Yeah – cuz you know, everybody wants something a bit different or extra and if your not open in the bedroom, they will go looking somewhere else. And there’s so many ways to find it now, like the internet and sex clubs – they will find it. And some girls just have sex with strangers for fun and not even ask money – so they will find it. The girls who want the perfect life, they are the ones who are conservative in bed and don’t think outside the box (in bed). They are the ones who should be worried . I don’t want to be like that “oh my husband is cheating on me!”

GN: I was wondering if you knew about any immigrant sex trade workers who perhaps don’t speak French or English

Mistress Envy: I don’t know any personally but I do know what’s going on – there are ads on craigslist that offer 10 girls at once and alot don’t speak English. I’m like “You poor thing! Your just literally being raped” If they can’t speak the language they can’t sat “Stop” or “Help”. I feel so bad for them because they really are being exploited. You can actually buy an Asian girl for 10 000 dollars – what you do with

her is whatever you want, it’s crazy. People buy like 10 of them and put them in a room and the guys just go and f*ck them all day. And at dirt cheap prices. That’s why I left Toronto – there’s like a billion Asian girls at like 50 an hour (I’m 250 an hour) – I can’t compete with that. So I figured there’d be less Asian girls in Montreal – yeah right! Was I wrong. Sometimes I want to help these girls and call the police but I don’t want the Chinese mob or the Hell’s angels on my back.

GN: So they don’t do it for the same reasons?

No, they are illegals. I heard that once they get bought, they can buy themselves out for the same price (10 grand) but with interest. So make them work for years and years – wow, what a life. It’s kind f like memoirs of a geisha.

GN: So a pimp literally owns these girls?

Mistress Envy: Yes. And you have to buy your freedom. Yeah and there are some guys that won’t even give them that option. And they are made to do WHATEVER under the sun – it’s very unsafe. If you look on craigslist you’ll see a ton of listings for Asians. 99% of them don’t speak English or French. And it’s not a question of Asian preference – when they see how dirt cheap the price is, they just go. Why pay 200$ for a white girl when you can get an Asian for 50$ – and two of them for 50$! These girls are not helped when they are being abused. It’s really sad.

Boy, is Obamacare getting hot or what? Have you seen footage of some of these Townhall meetings springing up across the country? The government is asserting this is all a conspiracy driven by the insurance companies who have too much of a vested interest in letting health care reform take place. Personally, I think the White House has lost its mind. When a government speaks openly about conspiracies and actively asks people to spy and snitch on one another well…

“The natural progress of things is for liberty to yield and government to gain ground.” Thomas Jefferson, 1788.

Obviously, Canada is in the middle of the debate. Yay! Attention! Despite some inaccuracies, I like this video because these guys actually secretly filmed their experiences within the system here. Be forewarned, it’s from Pjamas Media - a conservative media outlet. Ooooo, so scared, mommy!

Both sides are presenting their side of the story, and while each make valid points, I still feel the left paints waaayyyy to nice a picture and under estimates just how difficult it is to run such a massive operation while the right paints waaayyy to scary a picture.

All I know is, A) good luck in trying to control costs and B) the Canadian system IS under severe strain. These facts are well-documented and can be seen in plain view when you visit a hospital.

The video is valuable for one reason: It takes a secret camera inside clinics in Quebec. The picture is stark inside a semi-private clinic imagine public! See, I told you Mike we should have done this years ago when I suggested it.

Like most videos of this sort, it suffers from some factual errors. But still far less egregious and outrageous than anything Michael Moore puts out about the subject relating to Canada.

For example, they interview someone about his experiences with dermatology. Who cares? Like dentistry, dermatologists have private practices therefore they’re irrelevant to the discussion.

An important distinction is not made: As someone (Paul say hello) keenly point out to me, these are semi-private clinics. Not public hospitals. Public hospitals never close. Just as importantly, the Quebec system is not indicative of what goes on in other provinces since health care falls under provincial jurisdiction. For instance, Quebec allows private clinics to operate while Ontario doesn’t.This leads to different results.

These are just a couple I spotted. I feel the video was at its best while they were inside the clinics. Nonetheless, it still makes some valid points.

Generally speaking, despite provincial control, nationally we all experience, long wait times, rising expenditures, drops in overall quality of care, lack of accessibility to GPs and advanced equipment, experiencing doctor and nursing shortages and fiscal mismanagement. Canada’s performance in the OECD isn’t exactly something to write home about either.

None of this can and should be disputed. If we do, then all we do is defer to another time to make meaningful changes in enhancing and improving our frustrating Canadian public system.

What kind of changes? Man, that’s the million dollar question. So far, the best we’ve come up with is to expand private services to help alleviate strain on the public side.

Rather than sit back and take glee that the Americans want to have some type of universal care - has anyone read the bill? - maybe we should take this opportunity and assess our system properly and with conviction.

Which begs these questions: Is government responsible for providing care to all its citizens? Are there other ways to get care to the most vulnerable (children and elderly)? Is it feasible to run a universal system over time?

foot1Following his two goal performance in a 3-1 victory for Italy over the United States at the Confederations Cup soccer tournament, Giuseppe Rossi finds himself a topic of discussion among American sports writers and commentators.

You see, Rossi is originally from Joisey (also referred to New Jersey) who happens to have dual American and Italian citizenship who decide to play soccer for Italy.

The 22 year-old Rossi is such a special talent several European teams have expressed interest in him. After starting his professional career at FC Parma in Italy, Manchester United acquired his services until they sold him to Spanish club Villareal where he currently plays. Count ‘em, that’s three major soccer nations who saw something in him.

It wasn’t long before he caught the eyes of the Azzurri - Italy’s national side - and he’s been representing them at every level since 2003.

For its part, USA soccer has come under some criticism for not trying harder to keep him within the American system. In fairness, Rossi and his family were committed to Italy, so I’m not sure how much then-coach Bruce Arena could have done. Still, he could, should have tried, no?

Does anyone have a problem with Rossi’s decision for choosing Italy over the United States? I don’t and in the case of Rossi, the American media doesn’t either. Put it you this way, who would you choose if you had the choice between a soccer powerhouse like Italy or USA? Not to disparage the U.S. program. The United States have steadily remained a top 15 soccer nation in recent years.

By this point this example should remind Canadians sports fans of a similar situation with Owen Hargreaves. Hargreaves was somehow overlooked by Team Canada but was good enough to be signed by Germany’s Bayern Munich - one of the world’s biggest and successful clubs. His development there eventually earned him a spot on England’s national side and represented them at the 2006 World Cup.  I didn’t see Hargreaves’ decision as anything but a wise move.

Jonathan de Guzman is another stand out talent born in Canada who decided to play for another country. This time, the nation in question is yet another great soccer nation: The Netherlands. His club stint was with Feyenoord and he made his international debut for the Under-21 Dutch national team in 2008.

The history of soccer has been filled with similar cases. Great players have often played for nations other than their place of birth albeit each for their own reasons. Alfredo di Stefano, one of the greatest players in history, was born in Argentina and ended up playing for Spain. Omar Sivori, also Argentinean, played for Italy. Brazilian player Alessandro dos Santos (Alex) represented Japan. Even the great Juste Fontaine wasn’t born in France proper but rather in Morocco. But that brings into question former colonies of imperial powers. My point is that Rossi and Hargreaves are hardly alone as these precious few selected examples show.

And it doesn’t stop at soccer.

In hockey, Brett Hull, like de Guzman, was ludicrously called a “traitor” for choosing to play for the Team USA back in the 1980s. His situation was a little different. A marginal player early in his career, he knew he would never crack a Canadian line-up knee-deep in talent. Team USA offered him a spot in 1986 and he took it. By 1989, Hull was on his way to becoming one of the most prolific scorers in the history of the NHL.

Pro heavyweight champion Lennox Lewis decided to box under the British flag even after winning a gold medal for Canada at the 1988 Olympics in Seoul. Tennis player Greg Rusedski also bolted for the UK.

When it comes to sports, is it right to hold back an athlete in the name of nationality especially if that nation simply can’t offer anything?

In the case of soccer in particular, North America is simply not the best place to be. If Europe comes knocking, they have players at “buon giorno, bonjour, guten tag, and hello”.

“In our modern eagerness to be tolerant, we have come to tolerate things which no society can tolerate and remain healthy.” Brian Cleeve, 1938.

Did you hear about the ethics and religious cultural course (well, debate is a strong word. Did you expect being consulted?) and its aim to make us all tolerant and transcendent souls?

I have nothing against the course itself (you’re reading a post by a guy who feels “Humanities” courses have great merit) but I don’t see the point in paternalistically forcing private schools to comply - even if taught alongside religious courses. Furthermore, if parents don’t want it taught to their kids that’s their decision.

Which gets to the heart of my point: what happened to free choice?

Whenever the government (with the aid of intellectual masters) acts as a “progressive” agent I always treat it with a healthy scepticism. After all, is this not a society and government that held “reasonable accommodations” hearings and still wages its own private and petty war against the English language? Never mind about the poor state of the French language and the difficulties with “integration” in our classes.

I wasn’t sure what to make of the course itself until UQAM Professor Micahel Schleiffer recently offered his defense of the course in the Montreal Gazette. Here are some excerpts and my middling thoughts:

“A battle is raging around the world, between the vast majority of people who strive for moderation and universal values that transcend culture and religion, against fanatics and extremists of all sorts. Attacks on Quebec’s new Ethics and Religious Cultures course are helping the cause of the extremists.”

Really? I didn’t realize having a differing opinion makes you an attacking extremist. My interpretation of this passage is the world is concretely divided between “open-minded free thinkers” and “close minded enslaved sloths”.

However, is it possible, some “open minded” individuals are against not the course itself but the fact it A) trumps the parents authority (an all-too disturbing trend in Canada) and B) removes free choice from the equation?

Wasn’t President Bush derided for his “us against them” depiction of global politics in 2001?

This course, obligatory in all Quebec schools, introduces students to the major religions and is designed to help them to deal with ethical issues independently of specific religious instruction.”

There it is. That word. Obligatory. Why must everything be “compulsory” and “obligatory”. We’re like a bunch of psychopaths. Incidentally, I once dated a girl who was Zoastroarian. It didn’t work out since my rigid Catholicism kept getting in the way. Gee, I wish I had the ethics course to make me “tolerant”!

He goes on to assure us “relativism” will not pollute our students but then he says two conflicting things,”

“…As professors, we often have to confront the university student’s view that “it’s all a matter of opinion” or “it’s all relative…”

Fair enough. Although, one can argue it is vulnerable to relativism. Can you really teach this course from a neutral bias?

But then:

“That student or child might be looking, mistakenly, for the one “right” or “correct” answer, a quest inappropriate in the context of a discussion about moral values, choices, or dilemmas.”

I’m sure I’m missing something here. “Inappropriate”? Mistakenly”? Doesn’t this sound a lot like relativism in that there are “no absolutes”?

I don’t know but from what I’ve observed some people do have moral clarity (whether you like them or not) and stick by them.

Then he gets all rhetorically goofy:

“We want children to understand about honesty, respect, responsibility and co-operation, and to see the importance of personal virtues including consideration, generosity and kindness.

Is he insinuating religious classes (who by the way are more universal than given credit for) or parents are incapable of imparting these values? Heck, even Sesame Street covered all these bases.

If, with this piece, Professor Schleiffer (and there were other parts of the article that are up for debate) was hoping to enlighten little extremists like me, I remain in the dark.

He shouldn’t feel bad. Tolerance is a tricky thing. It’s called a FREE SOCIETY.

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The problem I have with multiculturalism is the strict and steadfast adherence of preserving cultural identities (through taxpayer funding) at the expense of forging a unified, albeit elusive and confusing,  national Canadian identity.

I much rather prefer a pluralist society free of state intervention where citizens are the driving force. And yes, there’s a difference between pluralism and multiculturalism. Creating a “community of communities” organically from a grass roots level is far more meaningful than legislating culture through a bureaucratic hand. But that’s just me. I’m a sucker for power residing in the sovereign individual. Lost concepts of a time…aw forget it.

Of course, thinkers, politicians and people alike have been divided about multiculturalism since it was made a policy in 1971 (and inserted into the Charter of Rights and Freedoms in Section 27) by the Liberal party.

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Immigration is a long, costly and sometimes painful process. The most important key for a successful immigration request is to be organized and to have an acute knowledge of its process. For instance, failing to submit a document could further delay your request as well as cost you a lot of money.

We at WhoWeAre would like to help you get prepared for this life-changing adventure by giving you some useful resources! This site is for you, and if you know of any other good websites that would be relevant to this community, please do not hesitate to share in the comment section!


1 – CIC | Citizenship and Immigration Canada

This is an obvious one and should be your primary source of information for all official procedures concerning immigration to Canada. Make sure you read everything on this site, and understand under which category you should apply for immigration. Some categories of immigrants are more “favourable” to the Canadian Government than others, which means your application process could be sped up greatly. Also, all forms and necessary documents to be submitted are listed on this site (though not in the most ergonomic way). Do not count on Canadian High Commissions to provide you with information, we’ve heard countless times that they are not being really useful to immigrants. Basically, this site is a fantastic source of official information.


2- Immigration.ca | A forum for immigrants just like you

Along the years, this forum has grown to become a great source of unofficial information regarding immigration to Canada, and in a way completes nicely the CIC website. Powered by people looking to or in the process of immigrating, it covers everything from Processing times for people in the Philippines to How much money has to be shown to Canadian officials upon arrival. It’s also a great place to build up a sense of community and to share with people who are going through the same process as you are.

3- Not Canada

This website has sprung up to give a voice to immigrants who are disillusioned by their arrival to Canada. We know this is an odd reference for a post that actually is pro-immigration. Even though this site tends to be over dramatic, the stories of these people are real. NotCanada might shine some light about some realities of Canada that are unknown to immigrants before their arrival. For instance, it’s important to know that your diplomas and work experience might not be recognized upon arrival in this country. To avoid any disillusion and to get prepared properly for what’s really awaiting you in Canada, we strongly suggest you take a look at this website. Again, we want to stress that preparation is key for success. Get to know what you’re getting into, and this way you won’t end up on NotCanada!


4- Settlement | A source of information for those who want to immigrate to Toronto and Ontario

Of all the provinces in Canada, Ontario is the primary destination for immigrants, especially Toronto. Here, you will find information and help to find a job, learn English, organize daycare services for your kids, learn about your community and get your legal documents such as your driver’s license sorted out. Don’t wait till you’ve arrived in Canada to get accustomed with all those elements. The more you know about Canada before you get here, the easier your integration to this nation will be.

5- Nabeez’s blog

Nabeez immigrated to Canada some time ago and he is sharing on his blog some very useful information on how to get settled in this country. His experience is especially relevant to those who want to immigrate to Ontario, but it is still informative for most of you.

This completes our first post in this 25 Articles serie on How to Immigrate to Canada. We want to hear what you have to say and your inputs on immigrate. Start sharing now in the comments section!


This post takes part in a 25 Articles serie on How to Immigrate to Canada. Stay tuned for what’s to come next!

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24 novembre 2008|

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A month later, there is still euphoria. November 4 2008 was the first day of Generation O. Only 13% of the U.S. population is Black thus clearly, this election wasn’t all about race.

It was about the good guy finishing first. It was about allowing the previously voiceless to speak. Obamamania wasn’t just about conspicuous marketing but was also about a global thirst for equality, dialogue and opportunity.

Despite all the exhilaration the American election generated, it’s impossible to not take a closer look at Canada’s elected leaders and wonder when they are going to really represent who we are. There are 34 different groups in Canada; 10 have at least I million members each and 16% of the population is non-white. It would be only fair that Parliament boast the same percentages. With a lackluster recent federal election and the upcoming December 8th snorefest also known as Québec’s elections, it’s time to step forward and carve our own new generation of leaders that will represent what’s now and what’s next. Generation O is about change-seeking underdogs giving the finger to odds, which we have forgotten, is what politicians should really be.

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Canada is a hot destination for immigrants.

We now greet more than 250 000 newcomers every year in this country, and those numbers keep increasing more and more. Immigration is changing the face of Canada and giving this beautiful destination new colours and flavours. But who are those individuals, what is their take on this country? We want to know!

Our WhoWeAre project is aiming to give a voice to all those immigrants (as you can see on the immigrants’ video page), but we also want to share with you our advices on the immigration process and how to get settled in Canada. There’s a lot of ground to cover, so we at WhoWeAre have decided to prepare for you 25 articles on How to Immigrate and Get Settled in Canada! Over the following weeks we will unravel those articles for you. Of course, we would love to hear about you and your needs. If there is something you would like to discuss or hear about, or if you simply want to add your input to the debate, we highly encourage you to do so. Leave us a comment or get in touch with us through email! Our first article will be up soon, so stay tuned.